For the last few weeks, I’ve taken a short Facebook break. I left Facebook originally because I was putting too much emphasis on likes. When people liked my posts, I felt good, and when they didn’t, it felt like a rejection, which it wasn’t.
I posted about this on my QuotesLyricsMadness instagram, and I think it’s true.
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I also missed posting reflections each week after church. Some reflections are on my Instagram, but not all of them are, and I just like having them on Facebook. My faith is important to me, and I want to share it with people. I used to worry this wasn’t a good idea, but I’ve actually had people I wouldn’t have expected tell me they appreciate how open I am about it. Since I haven’t posted reflections the last couple weeks, I think I’ll create an album on my Facebook page and all reflections will be retroactively posted there.
Although my Facebook break is over, I did learn some lessons:
1. You can’t take Facebook personally.
Everyone wants likes. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t post on Facebook; we’d write in a diary with a lock and key, or tell something as a secret to a friend. When we don’t get likes, it can be disappointing, but it likely doesn’t have anything to do with us. Sometimes people don’t see posts, sometimes they don’t want their name attached to it, sometimes their standards for what they like is unknowable, and sometimes there’s something going on. Regardless of what it is, you can’t take it personally when someone doesn’t like your Facebook posts.
2. You need to post for you.
Even though you want your posts to get likes, you still need to post for you. I’m definitely guilty of posting something just so it would get likes, but this isn’t a good way to be. I need to be able to stand behind everything I post. I want to be happy with what I post so that even if no one likes it, I’m still glad I posted it. That’s also the approach that I’m trying to take with my Instagram and Twitter. If I don’t really believe something, why would I post it?
3. Facebook isn’t part of your relationship with people.
You can’t judge people on whether or not they like your posts. I recently read some bizarre thing on Twitter where someone said, “If someone doesn’t like and share your projects on social media, they’re not your friend.”
Yeah, no. I care about a lot of different people, but I can’t think of anyone who constantly posts about things I care about 24/7. If someone doesn’t like or share one of my posts, that doesn’t say anything about our relationship. I put more value in our interactions offline.
So my Facebook break taught me a lot, and I’m glad that I’m going back with new understanding. Maybe people will like what I post, or maybe they won’t. Either way, I’m going to make sure I’m only posting what I truly believe. If I’m not, it’s time for another Facebook break.
Have you ever taken a break from a social media site? Which one? Why did you feel like you needed to take a break?